Non Normative Kids
Sep. 28th, 2021 08:37 amSo the younger has some non-normative tendencies. He occasionally gender bends with clothing etc and really is unapologetic about it. At some point, we assume he will come out as some flavor of queer. He currently has long hair with a red top section. He's wearing it in Viking-style braids. It looks cool.
Yesterday was picture day. He wanted to wear a tux. So mzkero borrowed one. Later in the afternoon, he mentioned to me that we needed to clear the tux. Some boy threw and hit him with an orange. He walked over to the boy and asked why he did it. The boy gave the younger more lip. So the younger "punched" him. They got in a minor tussle but the teachers didn't see it.
The younger seemed completed unbothered by the experience. I'm not sure he'd have brought it up if we didn't we needed to clean the tux. I asked if he damaged the tux in the tussle. He said no, I took off the jacket first. My thought was "oh you knew when you walked over"
I know this isn't the school-approved response and this is a bit of a bubba parent response. But my internal dialogue was "fuck yeah - stand up to these bullies. Show them that people who stand out are NOT your punching bag." I know - not the appropriate response. And unlike some queer/non-normative folk, he has the privilege of being a contact sport athlete and isn't afraid of a confrontation. But internally I'm still like - Yeah you go, buddy.
Yesterday was picture day. He wanted to wear a tux. So mzkero borrowed one. Later in the afternoon, he mentioned to me that we needed to clear the tux. Some boy threw and hit him with an orange. He walked over to the boy and asked why he did it. The boy gave the younger more lip. So the younger "punched" him. They got in a minor tussle but the teachers didn't see it.
The younger seemed completed unbothered by the experience. I'm not sure he'd have brought it up if we didn't we needed to clean the tux. I asked if he damaged the tux in the tussle. He said no, I took off the jacket first. My thought was "oh you knew when you walked over"
I know this isn't the school-approved response and this is a bit of a bubba parent response. But my internal dialogue was "fuck yeah - stand up to these bullies. Show them that people who stand out are NOT your punching bag." I know - not the appropriate response. And unlike some queer/non-normative folk, he has the privilege of being a contact sport athlete and isn't afraid of a confrontation. But internally I'm still like - Yeah you go, buddy.

