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So the younger has some non-normative tendencies. He occasionally gender bends with clothing etc and really is unapologetic about it. At some point, we assume he will come out as some flavor of queer. He currently has long hair with a red top section. He's wearing it in Viking-style braids. It looks cool.

Yesterday was picture day. He wanted to wear a tux. So mzkero borrowed one. Later in the afternoon, he mentioned to me that we needed to clear the tux. Some boy threw and hit him with an orange. He walked over to the boy and asked why he did it. The boy gave the younger more lip. So the younger "punched" him. They got in a minor tussle but the teachers didn't see it.

The younger seemed completed unbothered by the experience. I'm not sure he'd have brought it up if we didn't we needed to clean the tux. I asked if he damaged the tux in the tussle. He said no, I took off the jacket first. My thought was "oh you knew when you walked over"

I know this isn't the school-approved response and this is a bit of a bubba parent response. But my internal dialogue was "fuck yeah - stand up to these bullies. Show them that people who stand out are NOT your punching bag." I know - not the appropriate response. And unlike some queer/non-normative folk, he has the privilege of being a contact sport athlete and isn't afraid of a confrontation. But internally I'm still like - Yeah you go, buddy.
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This is very cool and spot on. Need more guys like him.


Student 1: Mr. Schipper, I thought you were straight.

Me: I am.

Student 1: Then why are you wearing that shirt?

Student 2: It’s because his wifey is pretty, so he can do what he wants. Schipper don’t care...

Student 1: Yeah, but what if they’ve never seen pictures of his wife. They would think you’re gay.

Me: They might...so what?

I’m convinced the root of unhealthy masculinity is homophobia, and that becomes entrenched in middle and early high school years. Homophobia only ends if straight allies model to young kids, boys in particular, that being called gay isn’t an inherently negative thing and doesn’t require a defensive response. It’s difficult to do, but if we take the homophobia out of schools, we not only improve the lives of LGTBQ+ youth, but all kids who fear being labeled as gay by their peers.

Although one (openly gay) student told me my shirt wasn’t fooling anyone since my untrimmed facial hair screamed “straight AF.”

https://www.georgetakei.com/iowa-teacher-post-about-root-of-homophobia-2635481416.html?utm_content=inf_10_4221_2&tse_id=INF_f0b5fd70678911e9b433ab68d22425b2
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S (younger): Some of the boys were calling each other gay. What does gay mean?

J (elder) : That’s just stupid elementary boys (as he rolls his eyes)

Me: Well it can have multiple meanings (thinking how to address this properly)

S: Like what?

Me: Well gay can mean Happy.

S: Don’t think that’s what they meant

Me: Well it can be when a man likes a man or a woman likes a woman. Sort of like L’s parents (two dads). There isn’t anything wrong with that is there.

S: No

S: Dad, which one carried the baby in their tummy or was she adopted.

Me: She was adopted.

S: Well that makes sense. It would be very unusual for two white parents to have a black baby.

Me: Yes, the genetics on that would be very unusual.

Me: BTW S, you do realize most men can’t carry a baby right? (Note, both boys know people where gender is not binary)

S: Yea. How do two women have a baby?

Me: Well, there are multiple ways.

S didn’t inquire further so I didn't provide more information

Highly amused that the unusual part for him is essentially the genetics but annoyed that “gay” is used negatively even in our progressive liberal bubble.
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The past week has been tiring. Returning to school has been stressful for mzkero. Managing schedules and baggage from previous semesters is challenging and not surprising but is having an impact on the rest of the family. Not complaining (at least trying not to), just acknowledging. Also, work has been particularly annoying and tiring. Mostly, end of quarter stuff and lots of customer challenges. Nothing disastrous just relentless.

J had two migraines last week. While that's bad, he seemed to recover more quickly from the one on Thursday. I suspect the second was triggered by the lack of sleep from us attending the Red Sox’s game on Tuesday night and us not being home (parent-teacher visits) on Wednesday evening to make sure he went to bed early. I think he might have had a low-level one most of Wednesday and didn't say anything (urgh, it’s much easier to stop them early!!). But the boys loved the game. It was their first MLB game in person and the Moogy Betts hit two home runs over the "green monster" J was particularly thrilled to attend the game. It's one of those parenting moments when your kid's enjoyment far exceeds what you expected. In hindsight, I wonder if some of the excitement was the manic behavior we frequently experience prior to a migraine, although there typically isn't a very long lag between manic and migraine.

On a positive note, we met J's and S's teachers and I'm optimistic. S's teacher, while new to the school, is very experienced and appears to have the necessary skills for managing his challenges. Although, they gave her most of the high-energy/sports boys. Not the easiest task but she's raised a couple of their own so at least she has experience. J's teachers seem to be a good fit, especially his academic support teacher. He actually came home and said, "Mr S is AWESOME". And after speaking to Mr S, I think we have the potential for a better academic year.

Gaelen and I had a medieval event this past weekend. It was unusually hot and humid but we did well. I got to catch up with friends that I don't see very often (even though some of them live 5 minutes away).

House renovations are progressing well. A couple of glitches but the contractor has been more than willing to address them. Actually, the contractor's direct crew is AWESOME. A couple of their subs are less than awesome. I'm really looking forward to the boy's rooms being done. Having S sleeping in our room is less than ideal - although the dog is going to miss sharing S’s bed.


Ok, time to start my week.
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This is the video for the BBN fund raiser. I think the video is pretty cool.


A Knight's Poem from Buckingham Browne & Nichols on Vimeo.




( A couple of still shots )
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Inae delivered the baby at 12:35 today at Newton Wellsley hospital. She would love visitors. Rm 508. Ill post specifics later but he's smaller than Julian
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I accidentally changed the trip computer in my truck to metric. Miles per gallon was replaced with liters by 100km. I thought it was interesting that they report volume per distance as opposed to the other way around.
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And I really don't want to re-price this proposal again.

( Some might be accurate )

Karma

Jul. 9th, 2008 02:14 am
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Newark adventure continued

Rental car for the day - Mustang converible (my female colleague only allowed me to have the top down on the way back to the airport. Something about not wanting big wind blown hair for the meeting)

Meeting. Successful but ran overtime. Typical for these guys.

Reschedule 7:30 flight (which took off on time) to 9pm. Too late foir Indian dinner in Oak Grove Village with Indian colleagues.

Get to the airport and find the flight is delayed until 10:10. Damn - could have had Indian food! We grab dinner in airpirt that is cut short because departure time is now 9:22. We board the flight and wait on an active taxi way. Estimate wheels up time 11pm. I should have drove home in the Mustang.

Flight karma is now back in balance

Wow

Jul. 8th, 2008 12:17 pm
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Reasonable traffic to the airport

No lines at the airport

Flight leaving on time

A window exit row seat with no one in the middle

This is too good. Either this afternoon's meeting is going to be a disaster or I'll be trapped on the runway for hours

Distracting

Jul. 3rd, 2008 02:26 pm
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Having someone on a window washing rig doing repair work on your office window is very distracting. Not that I need a lot of help today.

One more meeting and I think I'm going to head out to the barn and ride. Sorry to say, I don't remember the last time I was able to ride on a non weekend day.
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Well I'm posting from a stuck elevator at work. Don't worry the elevator company is on its way and I'm pretty sure I on the lowest floor. Kind of funny I guess. That what I get for not walking two flight of stairs.

Oh well. Glad I ate the popcorn at 7pm.

Unfortunately I didn't bring my laptop and blackberry reception is spotty so at 30 minutes I'm getting a bit bored.

Edit. I'm out. A bored engineer isn't a good thing or maybe ok in this case

News

Apr. 15th, 2008 04:31 pm
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For those of you who aren't on [livejournal.com profile] mzkero lj or haven't heard already





We are expecting our second child.




And no it wasn't an accident

:)

http://mzkero.livejournal.com/55588.html
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Sorry the picture was taken with a camera phone so the quality isn't so good.


Yee Ha

Of course, his Parrain B noticed he was having a trouble mounting and discounting. So Parrain B went into the wood shop and 15 minute later fit a new wood step. (see at the bottom). Are we surprised he loves the new toy?

Oh BTW - the hat is also a Christmas present from Parrain B and Aunt K.
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Chinese Toy Recall
Originally uploaded by SWVENABLE
Bad Joke
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Hopped an earlier flight from Newark. It left on time and landed early. I could get used to this
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I looked into installing a iPod connection in my truck and its surprisingly expensive ( over $300 for parts and installation). I was thinking about trying one the iTrip FM transmitters. I'll primarily being using it for audio books so I'm not too worried about high definition sound quality. Any one have experience using one around the Boston- Rt 128 area? I've seen a couple of used ones on Craig's List for approx $20. Worth it?
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I think the product marketing group was smoking something when they named this product

http://www.horseloverz.com/Anti-Monkey-Butt-Powder-pr-188129.html

Link provided to show its not a joke.
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